I went to my friend’s house as he invited me some time ago. When I entered, he was talking over the mobile phone. He just recognized me and asked to sit by his gesticulation as he could not disconnect the call. The conversation which he had with somebody over the phone was on his upcoming tour program with his family. He was inquiring about the places to explore, types of food to be eaten, details about accommodation and more importantly, number of days for staying, sightseeing, mode of travel, etc.,
I was keenly monitoring the conversation since I displayed sufficient patience, Somewhat he managed to get answers for all of his queries. Before I asked him he had briefed me that it was his ex-colleague whom he was talking to.
Out of my inquisitiveness, I sought him “why did you disturb him a lot when we are competent to get all information through countless websites. Today’s technology brings much more comfortable for you. Sit in one place and try gathering. Nowadays, no need to depend on anybody.”
He replied, “No. You misunderstood me completely. There is no dependency on this. He is not only my ex-colleague but also my well-wisher or an advisor. Yes of course I could obtain all details or solutions through many websites as you said. His personalized advice would help me in many ways as he knows my family and me extremely well. If I have achieved success in my life, he is the person who is behind that. I have an unshakeable belief in him that he can never suggest anything wrongly to my family or me. Whenever I ask any suggestions or advice on any particular matter, he instantly thinks of my family and recommends the appropriate one. It doesn’t mean I don’t have any idea about anything when he advises me. Sporadically I decide myself and share it with him. I think everyone requires a well-wisher like this in their life as they could acquire another dimension of solutions to their problems.
“His personalized advice would help me in many ways as he knows my family and me extremely well”
After an hour I vacated the place. It was terrific talking to my friend, and it was noteworthy. What he divulged about the well-wisher or an advisor is a novel thing for me. In our family, we know many persons who provided the most effective solutions for our problems, but we didn’t entitle them as well-wishers. My question is do we indeed require a well-wisher in our life for all these things?
I reviewed some books after I had come back home. I spoke to my superior and conducted some research on this. Based on the discussions and my own research, it is very evident everyone needs a well-wisher for leading their life smoothly.
“Choosing a person as our well-wisher would remain an extremely complex task”
Alright. Everything seems to be okay. How can we have a person as our well-wisher? Yes. Choosing a person as our well-wisher would remain an extremely complex task. He or she should be knowledgeable and well versed with almost all. Will it suffice? No.
He should think from a more analytical angle and furnish his solutions to the problems, and we must be extra cautious about choosing a person as our well-wisher.
Key points for identifying a well-wisher.
- He or she should be a well-known person to the whole family.
- He or she should be a trust-worthy person of the family.
- He or she should really take care of our things.
- It does not mean that for every personal problem we should knock his door. Every so often we can be selective on receiving advice.
- On the odd occasion, we ourselves can try the best. If we cannot get the exact solutions, then we can go to him.
- If we lack knowledge about something, get better ideas from a well-wisher. For e.g. ideas for modern business, higher studies.
- Get another dimension for identical problems or ideas and treat it as a second opinion.
A well-wisher is a person who should genuinely think well about us and provide the best for our wishes.